Friday, March 11, 2016

"Whiskey Tango Foxtrot" and The Week in Reviews

[I review the new Tina Fey movie "Whiskey Tango Foxtrot" as well as DVDs "Room" and "Bridge of Spies."  The Book of the Week is actor Burt Reynolds' memoir.  I also bring you up-to-date on "My 1001 Movies I Must See Before I Die Project" with "Black Narcissus."]




Whiskey Tango Foxtrot


Based on the true story of reporter Kim Barker's three years covering the war in Afghanistan.

In 2002 Kim Baker (no, that's not a typo, but not sure why the writers made that minor name change for the film) was over 40, unmarried and working a dead-end job writing TV news copy for "pretty but dumb" news anchors (her words, not mine).  When the opportunity came to go to Afghanistan for three months to report on the war, she jumped at the chance, having no clue what she was getting into.  She not only stepped into a war zone but a hard partying, hard-drinking, hard bitten war correspondent zone, reporters who had seen it all and who were all in competition for a story that would put them on camera and add to their resume. 

Kim (Tina Fey) learned fast when she met the only other woman there, reporter Tanya Vanderpoel played by Margot Robbie.  Vanderpoel quickly clued Kim in to what it was like to be a woman reporter in Kabul.  She told Kim "In New York you would be a 6 or a 7. Here you are a 9." to which Kim replied to the glamorous Tanya,  "What does that make you?  A 15?"  Well, yeah.  Barker in interviews has called this "Kabul cute and mission pretty."

Kim had to deal with the issues women in Afghanistan had to deal with: head scarves, burkas, men only gatherings, and women not allowed to drive.  However, in a funny scene, Kim covered a story about the first woman allowed to drive and, wouldn't you know, she backed into something (Kim's response? "That sucks for women").  But in addition to the cultural issues posed by being a woman in Afghanistan, she also had to deal with the issues posed by a male-dominated world of war correspondents.

What was supposed to be a three month assignment turned into three years and Kim was still there starting to realize that this "kabubble" was feeling too normal and no one seemed to care anymore about what was going on in Afghanistan anymore, having turned their attention instead to Iraq.

Comedians want to be dramatic actors and dramatic actors want to be comedians...or singers.  At any rate, Tina Fey proves herself adept at both comedy and drama and doesn't put a foot wrong as a woman who is trying to find her place in a world that doesn't make much sense to her. Carrying this film is a long way from her SNL days playing Sarah Palin. With her deadpan, self-deprecating delivery, Fey can be funny and touching all at the same time. She follows Kristen Wiig, another SNL alum, as an actress who can play both comedy and drama.

Martin Freeman has emerged from Middle-Earth as Kim's love interest, a long way from his Hobbit ears and he is believable as Scottish war correspondent Iain McKelpey. Billy Bob Thornton has grown into his face and makes a quite handsome Marine general, and Alfred Molina as an Afghan official who wants to be more than friends with Kim, is also good. Robbie is gorgeous, as usual, if underused for an actress who we have come to expect in larger roles.

But the stand-out for me was Christopher Abbott, Kim's Afghan guide who is torn between his admiration for her and the cultural hand he was dealt.  A scene where he is reading "O" Magazine at Kim's behest, "so he can learn about women", is very funny and the scene where the two say goodbye is tender and touching, all due to the nuances Abbott is able to convey.

Co-produced by Fey and Lorne Michaels and based on the real Kim Barker's  book "The Taliban Shuffle: Strange Days in Afghanistan and Pakistan," this "fish out of water" comedy drama ticked all of the boxes for me.  It was a comedy that was actually funny (been looking for one of those lately) and a drama that made me feel something, thanks to a script filled with snappy dialogue tempered with pathos by Robert Carlock, another SNL-er and the direction of Glenn Ficarra and John Requa.

But this is all about Tina Fey, her best role yet.

Rosy the Reviewer says...a very satisfying and enjoyable film with a title that expresses what Kim must have been thinking as she tried to make sense of what she was experiencing in Afghanistan (you get it, right)?


 

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Room (2015)


Joy (Brie Larson) and her 5-year-old son, Jack (Jacob Tremblay), escape the room where they have been captives but discover the difficulties of adjusting to life outside of "Room."

A mother and son wake up and go through their morning routine. After they get up and eat their cereal, "Ma" measures Jack's height, they roll up the carpet to do exercises, and since it is Jack's 5th birthday, this day they are going to make a cake. Jack greets each item in their tiny space that Ma has dubbed "Room."  "Good morning chair," "Good morning toilet..." "Good morning, table."  They have a domestic routine like any other mother and son, except we soon realize the limitations of their existence.  The two are captives, confined to a small shed, and part of their routine includes Joy enduring the nightly visits of her captor, Old Nick, with Jack tucked away in the wardrobe.

Jack's whole world is "Room," and he seems content. But Joy holds out hope for Jack and tells him about "the world," how wonderful it is.

When Old Nick cuts the power to the room because Joy has displeased him, Joy realizes they need to escape so she can protect Jack.  She hatches a plan and Jack makes a harrowing escape and they both are rescued.

But the story does not end there. 

It is just the beginning.  Imagine being a child who has never known anything but four walls, his Ma and TV for the first five years of his life. Even walking up a flight of stairs would be an adventure. Imagine a woman held captive since she was 17.  Joy and Jack return to Joy's home, but much has changed since her abduction.  Her parents, Nancy and Robert, played by Joan Allen and an underused William H. Macy, have since divorced and Nancy is living with her new sympathetic partner, but adjustment to life outside is difficult for both Joy and Jack. The world can be a scary place. Jack slowly adjusts, but it's harder for Joy and her parents.  It's not every day your daughter is kidnapped and then returned to you. The media, the nosy neighbors, the inability to ask the hard questions...all make life difficult.

When they finally go back to "Room," and see it in the light of day and the light of freedom, Joy realizes she is not only saying goodbye to "Room," but to her close relationship with her son as she loses him to growing up and to the world.

"When I was four, I didn't even know about the world.  Now Ma and I are going to live in it until we die."

Based on the best-selling book by Emma Donaghue, director Lenny Abramson, who was nominated for an Oscar for this, has done a great job showing the claustrophobia of "Room" and how that claustrophobia lingers even after Joy and Jack are released.  oy may be free physically, but it is not easy to be free mentally after an experience like that.  In some ways, she is still there...in "Room."  So is Jack, as it is all he has every known.  We see him playing in a closet because that feels more like home.

Much was made of Brie Larson's performance, and it was indeed wonderful.  It was not a flashy kind of performance, like Cate Blanchett in "Carol," but a quiet one that was riveting in its simplicity.  Her performance was wonderful, but should not overshadow the film itself, which was also a wonderful film. 

Likewise Jason Tremblay was a revelation.  I am not a fan of child actors getting Oscar nominations, but if they were handing them out, Tremblay was certainly worthy.  This film is really all about him and his finally seeing how beautiful the world can be.

Rosy the Reviewer says...Brie Larson's Best Actress Oscar was well-deserved, but this film is also Oscar worthy and needs to be seen.





Bridge of Spies (2015)


An American lawyer is called upon to defend an arrested Russian spy and then to facilitate his exchange for the captured U2 spy plane pilot, Francis Gary Powers in this real life depiction.

In 1957, the height of the Cold War, there really were spies all over the place.

Mark Rylance plays Rudolf Abel, a man who quietly goes about his business painting and spying.  When he is arrested, he seems to accept his fate and then quietly goes about his business of being a prisoner.

Tom Hanks is James B. Donovan, the lawyer who is chosen to defend Abel.  He is an insurance lawyer now, but was once a criminal lawyer and was involved with the Nuremberg Trials.  He is a strange choice, but soon realizes he was chosen only to give the appearance of giving the spy a fair trial.  Abel is already considered guilty and the authorities just want to run this through as quickly as possible.  Donovan's wife is not happy, worrying that they will be reviled for helping this spy, and after shots are fired through their windows, she is sure of it.  But Donovan is a man of integrity and plans to give Abel as complete a defense as he can.  But in so doing, he falls under suspicion and is spied upon, because it appears that everyone is spying on everyone in the postwar world of the 1950's.

When the inevitable guilty verdict comes down, Donovan talks the judge into not applying the death penalty in case Abel might be needed for a trade in the future.  Funny he should think of that.

Because it just so happens that at the same time that Donovan is mounting a defense for Abel, Francis Gary Powers, a U2 pilot flying over Russia at 70,000 feet, taking pictures with high-powered cameras mounted on the bottom of his plane, is shot down by the Russians. And to make matters more complicated, an American student is arrested in East Berlin.

Donovan is asked to negotiate the swap and when he insists that the American student also be part of the deal, an intricate tug of war begins as the Soviets and the East Germans jockey for position.

Steven Spielberg directs a great screenplay by Matt Charman and the Coen Brothers, and there even seems to be a bit of an homage to Hitchcock with a short black umbrella scene reminiscent of Hitchcock's "Foreign Correspondent."  This film also has a "Spy Who Came in From the Cold" feel as the Berlin Wall goes up and spy exchanges take place in that midpoint between freedom and imprisonment.  The Berlin Wall was a horrible symbol of oppression, and I couldn't help but think of that damn wall Trump wants to build between Mexico and the U.S. 

Spielberg showed his Baby Boomer roots and captured the Cold War climate of the 1950's with its mushroom clouds, duck and cover school drills and the gentlemen spies who didn't have the luxury of encrypted emails on the Internet, but rather had to get their hands dirty planting secret coded messages under park benches and taking on secret personas.  

Hanks is always good as a righteous defender of truth and justice, but no matter how good he is, I always think he is playing himself or Jimmy Stewart.  But it's the quiet brilliance of Rylance in his portrayal of Abel that is riveting.  No histrionics, no crying, no screaming, but you can't take your eyes off of him.  His Best Supporting Actor Oscar was well-deserved. 

Rosy the Reviewer says...This film's Oscar nomination for "Best Picture" was also well-deserved because it certainly was one of the best films of the year.





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Black Narcissus (1947)



Sister Clodagh (Deborah Kerr) and four other nuns, members of The Servants of Mary, are assigned to open a school and a dispensary in an old castle high up in the Himalayas.

Sister Clodagh is promoted to Sister Superior and assigned to supervise the opening of a convent/school and medical facility for the local villagers in an outpost that was once a castle (The Palace of Mopu) high up in the Kanchenjungo mountains.  It has been given to the nuns by a local General and is overseen by a Mr. Dean (David Farrar) and a flighty native woman named Angu Aya (May Hallatt). 

The nuns name the outpost Saint Faith, but the convent used to house a harem and is adorned with explicit murals, which causes some uneasiness among the nuns. There is something in the air - the colors, the heady smells, the exotic nature of the place, a sensuality that is foreign to the nuns - and the nuns begin to struggle with their desires. Through a series of vignettes, we see how the nuns cope with this exotic location. In flashbacks, Sister Clodagh remembers her young love in Ireland and we slowly discover why she became a nun.  And Sister Ruth (Kathleen Byron) becomes obsessed, to the point of madness, with Mr. Dean.  That's how they handled repressed sex back in the 50's.  It drove women mad!

Based on a Rumer Godden novel, this film was released right at the end of WW II when Great Britain was barely recovering from the ravages of war.  The people needed something to help them recover, so a film with all of the color and lushness of the mountains of the Himalayas was just the thing.  Directors Powell and Pressburger did not disappoint.

However, ironically, despite the gorgeous scenes, not one frame was filmed on location but rather at Pinewood Studios, outside of London, with a few scenes set in the English countryside.  Everything was created by production designer Alfred Junge, special effects by W. Percy Day and wonderful cinematography by Jack Cardiff.  Junge and Cardiff both won Oscars for their work.

Michael Powell and Emeric Pressburger formed a production company called "The Archers."  Their cinematic logo was an arrow piercing a target.  If they felt the film was good, the arrow hit it's mark, if not the arrow would miss the target.  Now that's self evaluation, if I have ever seen it.

Probably best known for the film "The Red Shoes," Powell specialized in directing and Pressburger in screen writing, but they felt they both overlapped enough to give themselves equal credit for everything, an early collaboration like Lennon and McCartney.

It's a young Deborah Kerr starring in this film (she was only 26), who had yet to achieve international stardom.  Likewise, we see Jean Simmons early in her career in a small role as a young errant bride who reminded me of Tup Tim in "The King and I," a film that also starred Kerr seven years after this one.  Sabu, a fixture in many British movies about India, plays the young General.  There is a lot of scenery chewing in this film, especially Kathleen Byron, who plays the obsessed Sister Ruth whose sexual obsession drives her mad.  Like I said, what do you do with a nun in the 1950's who wants to have sex?  You have to turn her into a madwoman!

It's a fish out of water story that is a metaphor for the end of Empire.  These nuns have good intentions, but they are not wanted nor are they prepared to live with people they do not understand.

Though I can appreciate the beauty of the P & P films, they just don't hold up today.  The acting is just too histrionic.  Even "The Red Shoes," which I loved so much as a girl, is just too over the top for me. 

Why it's a Must See:  "Film Historian David Thomson probably understates the case when he refers to [this film] as 'that rare thing, an erotic English film about the fantasies of nuns."
---"1001 Movies You Must See Before You Die"

Rosy the Reviewer says...Mmm, I suppose that's enough reason to see this film, but if you are a diehard fan of British films from this era, even with the over the top aspects, it's still a gorgeous film that you will enjoy.




***Book of the Week***





But Enough About Me: A Memoir  by Burt Reynolds (2015)



Actor Burt Reynolds shares the ups and downs of a life well-lived.

The title is an irony which speaks volumes about the man himself.  He has a huge ego (you have to if you want to be an actor), but not so big that he doesn't indulge in self-deprecation.  I remember him fondly for his stints on the late-night talk shows.  He was hilarious. Always a treat.  And I have always had a soft spot for him because my Hubby looked just like him when I first met him.

Burt Reynolds is probably best known as a leading man in comedies like "Smokey and the Bandit" and the TV show "Evening Shade,"  but he proved his dramatic ability in "Deliverance."  Younger people probably don't realize what a huge star Reynolds was. He was number one at the box office for five years in a row and shocked the world with his "nude" spread in Cosmo. However, that photo is one of his big regrets, and he believes it was why "Deliverance" did not get the respect it deserved.

Here he shares stories of his childhood as a high school football hero, his admiration for his strict father, what he had to go through to make it as an actor and the joy of teaching acting to students. 

But he means what he says when he says "Enough about me." 

Though this memoir gives insight into Reynolds' growing up years and lots of behind the scenes anecdotes from his acting life and films, most of the book talks about other people, people whom he admired or who were big influences on him as he made his way up the fame and fortune ladder, people like Bette Davis, Johnny Carson (Burt was the first actor to guest host on "The Tonight Show"), Orson Welles and others. 

And, yes, the famous romances are here - Dinah Shore (probably the love of his life, but he couldn't shake the age difference), Sally Field (they both wanted to get married but never at the same time) and Loni Anderson (he married her but didn't really like her).  And speaking of people he didn't like, there are some anecdotes about those folks too.

At the end of the book, Reynolds shares roles that were offered to him that he wishes now he had taken. 

Can you imagine Burt Reynolds as the TV Batman instead of Adam West?  Can you imagine Reynolds as the husband in "Rosemary's Baby (the part went to John Cassavetes) or as McMurphy in "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nestinstead of Jack Nicholson?  And he also turned down the Jack Nicholson part in "Terms of Endearment" to do "Stroker Ace!" 

He turned down all of those (and other iconic parts). Like I said, when he was hot, he was hot!!!

But there is one more role he turned down that I want to leave you with. 

"Bond, James Bond."

Rosy the Reviewer says...Reynolds isn't really the smart-ass character he liked to portray on film and on talk shows.  He is a serious guy who is very candid  in this memoir, which is a fun read that celebrity watchers will enjoy.

 
 

 
 
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Tuesday, March 8, 2016

How To Be An Interesting Person

I was going to call this post "How to be Interesting to Your Spouse," because I think once people get married they fall down on the job and feel like they don't have to make an effort to be interesting anymore.  I mean, really, how often can we listen to bitching about a job we know nothing about or whether the Seahawks will make the play-offs or a long discourse on how bad the moss on the lawn has gotten?

But then I thought, "Why limit it to married people?"  I think most people are deficient in the interesting category.  You know why?  Because it takes work to be interesting.

I am a very busy person.  Oh, I know what you are thinking.  How can you be busy?  You are retired.  Well, people, that old saw about "Once you retire you will be busier than ever" is kind of true.  People used to say that to me when I was about to retire and it really irritated me.  But you know what, there really is some truth to it.

I write this blog which, you might not believe, takes several hours out of my week, I am a Senior Peer Counselor, so I have a client I see once a week, I am on a Council on Aging that has several meetings every month, and I write movie and book reviews, so I have to go to movies, watch movies and write about movies and read, read, read.  I also am grappling with my TV addiction so there is a certain amount of time I must devote to that.  Those "Housewives" can't get along without me!  But in the end, when you don't have a job and you aren't required to show up somewhere every day, it's easy to resent the slightest hint of all of that and "busy" takes on a whole new connotation.

So anyway, whatever, I am a busy person however you want to define that, and the bottom line is:  I don't have time for people who are not interesting, and I am sure you don't either.  Maybe I should tell Robert Putnam, who wrote the fascinating book "Bowling Alone," which showed how we have all become increasingly disconnected and no longer form social groups as we once did, like bowling leagues and bridge groups, that maybe that's why people don't congregate anymore. 

Because most people are boring.



But they don't have to be. 

They, and we, can all learn to be interesting.

Now I don't purport to say I am an interesting person.  That is for someone else to say.  But I will say, I am very sensitive to what is going on around me and when I am talking and someone starts looking around the room or checking his or her cell phone or looking blankly at me while I am talking, I know I am not interesting and that I have lost contact. 

I mean, people generally have the attention span of a flea these days, anyway.  Geez, people can't even seem to sit still for an entire movie and even run up and down the aisles at rock concerts. If Bruce Springsteen can't keep someone's interest, how are us mere mortals expected to? 

So when someone I am talking to is clearly not listening to me, I stop talking, which I recommend because continuing to tell a story to someone who is not listening puts you in the "not interesting" category.  Hubby is a perfect example of this and one of the reasons I was originally going to aim this blog post to married people.  Hubby is not sensitive to the fact that someone has lost interest in what he is saying, and even though he is telling a story to someone who is clearly not listening, he plows through his story anyway, because he has this idea that if he thinks something is interesting, someone else will too, even though all of the signs are there that he has lost his audience: twitching eyes surveying the room looking for an escape, yawning, and the arm touching that usually precedes someone making an excuse to walk away. 

At that point, Hubby has fallen into the "Uninteresting Person Zone."

But Hubby is not alone in this and there is a solution.


Let me elaborate.

I am going to use Hubby as an illustration from time to time and before you think I am so mean, we have been married for over 30 years and the reason it works is because Hubby does what he likes and I bitch about it. That's the bargain we have made. It works for us.

So, anyway, as I said, I am not putting myself out there as the Queen of Interesting, but I have learned some things over the years, having endured my share of boring conversations at cocktail parties and the like, so this is what I have learned.



If you want to be an interesting person:




You must read, read, and read some more

If you don't read, you won't know much.  And if you don't know much, how can you participate in conversations with people who do read and be considered interesting? 

I give my liberal arts education in a small Midwestern college some credit too.  It turns out that my liberal arts education did not really help me get a good job (I had to get MORE education for that), but it did prepare me with knowledge of a wide range of topics so as to be scintillating at cocktail parties and for that I raise a glass (as I am wont to do)! 






Learn to be a good storyteller

People who can tell a good story are interesting people.  However, it takes a particularly good storyteller to tell the story and get to the punch line before people walk away from you or start checking their cell phones.  Getting to the point is key.  This is Hubby's biggest problem and one of our most common interactions: him telling a long, convoluted story and me saying, "Get to the point!"  Like I said, I am a busy person.



Have a passion but it better be an interesting one

If you have a passion for something, you are more likely to be an interesting person.  Talking about something with enthusiasm ups your game when it comes to being interesting.  However, it helps if your passion is shared or is a particularly interesting passion, such as, say leading safaris in Africa. People will naturally be in awe of such a thing and you will be of interest immediately. You will also automatically be considered an interesting person if everyone else also has an interest in your current passion.  However, in my case, if your passion is baseball, stamp collecting or the best way to peel a grape, forget it. 





Know what you are talking about

When embarking on a topic of conversation, be sure you know enough about it to field pertinent questions, especially from someone who knows as much about it as you do.  For example, if you bring up existentialism and someone asks you if you think Kierkegaard's broken engagement to Regine Olsen was indeed a major influence on his work, and you not only don't know who Regine Olsen was, but you don't know anything about Kierkegaard, you will be sorry you brought up existentialism at all and you will automatically expose yourself as a phony and a show off.  I once had a friend who liked to throw out all kinds of names and topics, but as soon as I tried to dig deeper, it became apparent that he didn't know what he was talking about.  Not interesting.




Avoid non sequiturs

I can't tell you how many times Hubby will walk into the kitchen and say, out of nowhere, something like, "Bob Dylan."  These kinds of off-the-wall statements with no set-ups can be quite disconcerting and actually puts the onus of the conversation on the other person, which is not only NOT interesting to that person, but tedious. 

In most cases, when Hubby does this, I am able to search my brain and recent activities to figure out what Hubby is talking about, but if it's early in the morning, I am likely to just ignore him or say something like "What the hell are you talking about?"  However, in this case, I was able to put two and two together and remember that we were waiting to find out the name of another artist who would be playing at The Chateau this spring. 

After 31 years of marriage, Hubby and I are on the same wavelength.  However, most of the people you will encounter are not, so avoid starting a conversation with a completely unrelated topic that appears to be coming out of nowhere or you will not only be uninteresting, you will sound like that SNL character, "The Girl You Wish You Hadn't Started a Conversation With at a Party."




Be a good listener

If you are a good listener, you will automatically be considered interesting. It's amazing how often someone will think you are really interesting when you let THEM talk.  However, being a good listener does not mean you are passively listening and not participating. Being a good listener means making eye contact, shaking your head at appropriate moments in the conversation, making approving sounds and asking pertinent questions. People love to talk about themselves and will walk away from a conversation where they have done just that, thinking it was an interesting conversation.  By the way, listening to people talk about themselves is not interesting.




Ask pertinent questions 

Asking questions goes along with listening.  When you do that, it shows you are curious and the person you are having a conversation with thinks you are really interested which in turn makes you more interesting, right? And you will actually find the conversation more interesting, because you can guide the conversation into more interesting territory, if necessary.  Asking questions also shows that you give a damn (see "Give a damn," below).  Be curious.  Show you are interested.




Plan conversations

This might sound strange but planning a conversation ahead of time will give you some topics to talk about should there be a need.  This is especially important with phone conversations. 

Back in the day, when Hubby was traveling - this was before cell phones and when calling long distance was expensive - he would call me once a day.  I had one shot to talk to him, so during the day I would jot down various things I wanted to convey or discuss or share.  I might want to share the latest movie I watched or recent antics from the dogs or something I heard about the Seahawks, things Hubby is interested in.  If you don't have anything planned to say, you might be faced with a lot of dead air time or a conversation like this:

"Hi."
"Hi."
"How are you?"
"Fine"
"How are you?"
"Fine."
"What did you do today?"
"Not much."
"How about you?"
"Not much."
(Yawn)
(Yawn)
"Well, I had better get off the phone."
"OK"
"Talk to you tomorrow."
"OK."
"Bye."
"Bye."

Yawn.  That's what Hubby's and my conversations might have been like if I hadn't planned for the conversation. If you want your significant other to miss you when he or she travels, plan an interesting, enthusiastic conversation.  It works with your kids, too!





Don't say "AND" after every sentence

When you are talking and say "and..." after every statement, this sends a message that you are not done speaking.  If you say AND after every sentence, though, you will NEVER be done and no one else will get to say anything without feeling like they are interrupting you which does not make for an interesting conversation.  Interrupting is considered rude, but in this case, I recommend it because this person will never stop saying, "And...."



Don't preclude gossip as an interesting topic

I am not talking about spreading bad rumors about your friends.  I am talking about celebrity gossip which can be fun to share and doesn't really hurt anybody.  For example, I found it immensely interesting to discover that Alicia Vikander and Michael Fassbender are a couple.  And then you could get into a whole discussion about his movie "Shame."







Don't lose your train of thought.

There is nothing worse than being in the middle of a story that you believe is immensely interesting and suddenly losing your train of thought.  This will brand you as an uninteresting person immediately.  However, not losing one's train of thought becomes increasingly difficult as you age, so if you are of a certain age, best to keep your stories short (See "Learn to be a good storyteller" above, especially the part about getting to the point).




Give a damn. 

By that I mean, you have to want to engage people and do the work of being interesting.  Some people would rather sit back and be observers and let other people do all of the work required to be interesting.  Those people are NOT interesting. Whether you have issues with shyness or not, not participating looks like you don't care.  And I am not talking about answering questions when asked.  When you wait for others to ask you questions and engage you, you will be perceived not only as a bore, but a snob. To be an interesting person, you must be the one to ask the questions and take the initiative to engage others.  You will never be considered interesting if you sit back and let everyone else do the work.


Well, I hope you found that interesting. 


So, do you think you are an interesting person?

If not, awareness is the first step toward change.  I know I am working on these things myself because I don't want to add one more bore to the world.

Now I am going to go walk into Hubby's office and say "Remember Kim Kardashian?" and then walk away, just to mess with him.

 
 
What do you think makes someone interesting?

 
 
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and

 
The Week in Reviews
(What to See or Read and What to Avoid)


 and the latest on
 
"My 1001 Movies I Must See Before

 I Die Project."



 

  



 
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